couldn't think of anything to make for
dinner. I stood in front of the freezer
until I became cold and then I walked
away for a few minutes, hoping that something
appetizing and easy to make would magically
appear by the time I returned and opened
the freezer door again. Finally, I decided
on a meal.
overestimated the time the meat needed
to defrost and half of it ended up cooked.
I chopped it up and threw it in a skillet.
Then the phone rang, the doorbell buzzed,
and the cat scratched me as I held her
to keep her from running out the door
while I signed for the UPS package. When
I returned, the meal was burned and tears
threatened to come spilling out as I scraped
dinner down the disposal. It was time
to order pizza. I wanted a do-over.
you ever wanted a do-over? As I use the
computer, I constantly hit "undo."
It's easy to simply undo the last step
that one takes in a document, but not
so easy in one's life. Like in our lives,
there are times we have said things that
we shouldn't have said. No matter how
hard we try, we can't take it back-the
feelings of a loved one have already been
hurt. When we don't hit our "undo"
and at least apologize, the errors in
our life stack up and we create a mess.
How often have you wished you could simply
hit an "undo" button in your
has a way of changing the person that
one is when one interacts with his or
her spouse, the children, the parents
and friends. Although it's easy to believe
that we haven't changed, we have. Our
bubbly personality begins to fizz out,
or our usual amount of patience wears
thin a lot quicker. We scream, we cry,
we try to explain that we are in a lot
of pain and that we need some "help
around here." And then we grieve...
we grieve because we hear what we are
saying and it's not the person that we
desire to be. We don't want our children
to grow up fearing our moods. We don't
want our friends to think we are complainers.
We don't want our spouses to stay at work
long hours in order to avoid us. Rather
than trying to constantly "hit undo"
in our lives, however, we must be discerning
in our words, even when we are in pain.
gave us the largest "undo button"
by forgiving us for our sins and offering
us everlasting life. Psalms 103:12 says,
"As far as the east is from the west,
so far has he removed our transgressions
from us." Our mistakes have been
deleted, erased, undone and will not show
up again. Only Christ has the power to
erase completely however. Words sting
and are hard to forget.
sister played golf recently with our cousin,
and she asked for a mulligan. A mulligan
is the chance to replay your last shot,
and beginners often use this opportunity.
"Do you want to be a good golfer?"
he asked. "Yes," she said. "Then
you don't get a mulligan. You have to
learn to do it right the first time."
time you are tempted to use harsh words
out of frustration, think about what kind
of person you desire to be. What kind
of memories are you trying to make? "I'm
sorry," can be an appropriate gesture,
but sometimes it's better if we just avoid
taking that "bad shot" and needing
to use a mulligan. Instead, we must concentrate
on improving our relationships by using
kindness in our words from the beginning.